One of my favourite friend-related quotes is from Aristotle:
The antidote for fifty enemies is one friend.
It’s a little cheesy, but it’s true. We’re not talking a pumping social life. We’re talking one relationship, one person, who really understands you. I have such a friend, and there are times in my life where I don’t know how I’d have got through without him. We have the same morals, the same sense of humour, and though we’re very different people in some areas of our life, in others it’s like talking to a mirror being around each other.
Obviously, when things aren’t going so well, finding new friends and securing closer bonds isn’t as easy as it sounds. Even if you have those friendships, it’s easy to let them grow stale if you’re not careful.
A friendship means two things -having a good friend, and being a good friend. People say you know you have a good friend when they stand by you at your worst times, and even if they disagree with you they don’t disown you. But everybody has different needs, and it could be that being your best friend means being strong enough to disown you when they do disagree with you, so you have chance to realise you might be in the wrong.
Being a good friend is about respect and understanding. It’s about balance, as much as any other relationship in your life. It’s about making the effort to show you know that person, whether it’s from thoughtful little gifts, or choosing to do something you know they’ll like more than you. Making sure they know they’re important to you.
Be sure to nurture your friendships, especially those which have a positive impact on your life. You’d be surprised what a difference even one strong friendship can make to your life.